Rogers:
Total involvement in another person is unusual. Most people don't. Essentially, you are living the life of another person at the very least in terms of assuming as many of their roles as possible without loss of your own identity. It is well worth learning how.
Lindblom
The Non Directive Approach
"He (or she) tries to get within and to live the attitudes (of the client) expressed instead of observing them, to catch every nuance of their changing nature; in a word, to absorb himself (or herself) completely in the attitudes of the other.
And in struggling to do this, there is simply no room for any other type of counselor activity or attitude; if he (or she) is attempting to live the attitudes of the other, he (or she) cannot be diagnosing them..." Rogers, C. R. (1951).
References:
Rogers, C. R. (1951). Client-centered therapy. Boston: Houghton-Mifflin.
Rogers, C. R. (1957). The necessary and sufficient conditions of therapeutic
personality change. Journal of Consulting Psychology, 21,(2), 95-103.
Rogers, C. R. (1959). A theory of therapy, personality, and interpersonal relationships as developed in the client-centered framework . In S. Koch (Ed.), Psychology: A study of science : Vol. 3 Formulation of the person and the social context (pp. 184-256) . New York: McGraw Hill
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